Marriage
God made fire, Man made marriage. Recently several of my friends got engaged or married. Some got married after years of courtship while others after one or two conversations with bride in an arranged fashion. I still cannot see the point how readily one can commit to someone and get married. Here are excerpts from the conversations I had with some of those friends:
DB: Hey, why did you get married ? Are you happy ? What made you think that you wouldn't have gotten a better wife had you waited a little longer ?
Friend1: What kind of stupid question is that ! You should be happy with what you get. At least I am that kind of person. If you get older, you won't find a wife.
Friend2: There will be always be someone better and if you keep searching for one, it may take for ever.What are your priorities in life ? You should judge a girl what kind of person she is. Education, job etc can be acquired whereas nature and attitude of a person cannot be changed. So, try to see if a girl has the right kind of attitude in life. I think you should talk to your dad about this and don't take too much opinions from a girl on this since their views will be skewed on marriage issues.
I am not sure if they are practical or I am doubtful about marriage....
DB: Hey, why did you get married ? Are you happy ? What made you think that you wouldn't have gotten a better wife had you waited a little longer ?
Friend1: What kind of stupid question is that ! You should be happy with what you get. At least I am that kind of person. If you get older, you won't find a wife.
Friend2: There will be always be someone better and if you keep searching for one, it may take for ever.What are your priorities in life ? You should judge a girl what kind of person she is. Education, job etc can be acquired whereas nature and attitude of a person cannot be changed. So, try to see if a girl has the right kind of attitude in life. I think you should talk to your dad about this and don't take too much opinions from a girl on this since their views will be skewed on marriage issues.
I am not sure if they are practical or I am doubtful about marriage....
2 comments:
I think you are doubtful. I remember asking you this question few years back and you replied you will be marrying a widow as it will also help her. The thought and your intension seem genuine but this is not the sole criteria. You have to decide whether your thought/attitude/believes tally somewhat, if not exactly match. Else no matter who-ever we marry will always end up in a skewed relationship. I agree with your friend2, we can never zero down to one with the attitude like “I might get a better one”. But then again marry when you think you are ready.
Marriages are made in heaven. Doesn't matter how doubtful you are, because no matter how you keep searching the heart of Gold, still you will be ended up with your predetermined one :)
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